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Alcohol and Anal Sex

Is it good to mix alcohol and anal sex?

Every time I see the subject of deliberately using alcohol to help a bottom take a cock, especially when the question relates to an anal sex virgin, neigh sayers descend on the forum discussion propounding the dangers of mixing alcohol with anal sex. Their rather outrageous claim is that anyone using alcohol to easy the path to anal penetration is a candidate for the Darwin Awards or, at the very least, a trip to the ER. From a clinical standpoint, nothing could be further from the truth and there is no justification for all the negativity Continue reading
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30 min Colon Clean Out

Preamble

This article has been published to help a member of FetLife who came to me for assistance with a specific situational problem. The home is not conducive to using enemas (shared accommodation). They get away to their playmate’s place for the weekend but they don’t want to waste a good portion of Friday evening preparing following a three hour drive from work. In fact they don’t want to waste a second. So her ass has to be clean by the time she gets there and that is usually 6 or 7 hours after her lunch break, the only opportunity she has to clean out (bummer). So Friday lunch is the only opportunity which she can sort out for a serious enema and that only gives her about 30 mins, So….

The 30 min Colon Clean Out

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Guide to Colon Dimensions

When time is of the essence, the most important point is not to start with a large volume enema. You need to work up to it. When you are in a hurry the very last thing you want to do is to push any gas and/or solids backwards up your rectum and colon. When you are in a hurry it is extremely tempting to push as much fluid as fast as possible up your ass to get the cleaning process going, but that is guaranteed to push stuff backwards and that will cause stoppages and cramping when you try to expel. It will completely derail your efforts to be fast. Slow and steady wins the race. To help avoid pushing stuff the wrong way, always stand up or be vertical when filling. Don’t use positions or techniques to “help” the enema go in. If it doesn’t go in easily, if you feel cramps or pressure, you know that the fluid is pushing up against either gas or solids. It is not a problem if the fluid goes past solids (as long as they are not carried up the wrong way int he process) but if it is pushed past gas the gas often causes a vapor lock. There will be lots of cramping on the way out and nothing comes back past it in a hurry. Since there is no way to know if the pressure is from a gas pocket or a solid mass you have to take the approach that it is gas. You don’t have the time wait for your colon to shift a gas pocket that is preventing stuff getting past or out.

Step 1 – Empty the rectum

Anus and Rectum detail

Anus and Rectum Details

Start with a very small amount of warm water. You don’t need to use a enema bag for this step. If might be easier/quicker is you use an enema bulb syringe. You must use warm water to help relax the muscles. The warmer the better but don’t scald your ass. 100ml or 1 oz, just to help empty the rectum of any solids or gas quickly. 1 squirt and 1 squat should only take a minute.

Step 2 – Flush the rectum

Next is a quick flush of the rectum. Depending on your anatomy you will need 300-500ml to fill the rectum. Using enema bottles or syringes can be problematic as you are likely to go too fast or too far. Take it slow is the key and stop if you feel any cramping or pressure. You have either reached the top of the rectum or you have encountered more solids or gas. Solids or gas might have descended when you squatted the first time or you may not have emptied the rectum entirely with the first squat. Regardless, stop and squat when you feel the pressure. A fart at the end of the squat is always a good sign. Gas is your enemy and you want it out.

Step 3 – Empty the Sigmoid Colon

Third step is to clean out the sigmoid and even the descending colon. That does not mean filling them with water. If you didn’t get to 500ml (or a pint) on the last step you should be able to get there now, but it is OK if you don’t. The program is much the same as before – don’t push it and make sure the water flow is slow! It should take about 1 min to take 500ml. And if it goes in without any resistance, no more than 1 qt – 1 ltr. Warm water as always. Fill yourself as before, until you feel the pressure or cramping. Don’t keep filling beyond this point even if you don’t seem to have got any further than last time, but this time don’t expel right away.

You have to hold it, without adding any more water, until the cramp or pressure passes. You will feel your insides relax dramatically. Then you should find it easy to hold for a couple of minutes. If the pressure/cramps start again, try to hold it till the feeling passes. Now sit, don’t squat. Drop your knees below your hips, sit up and arch back a little to help straighten out your lower bowel. Try to control the expulsion so that it is more of a release than a push.

When the flow stops or peters out to a dribble, deliberately clench your anus to stop (wipe) and stand up. Stretch, arch your back, twist your torso and use your stomach muscles to push your belly out. If you can, walk around for a minute. Softly “smooth” your hands over your belly in circular motions. Now sit in a more regular toilet position, knees up high, in a proper squatting position if you can and give it a push to see what more you can get out. Give it at least a minute.

This will have taken you up to the 10 min mark or there abouts.

Step 4 – Empty the colon

Now it is time for the 2 quarts – warm water. It should be taken slowly. This is why it is often said that an enema bag should not be hung higher than your shoulder or head height. The water should flow easily without any resistance until it reaches the top of the descending colon. At this point you might feel some amount of pressure or a subtle cramping – Somewhere between 1 pnt/500ml to 1 qrt/1 ltr. The pressure might be quite consistent. As long as it is a small amount and doesn’t keep building up, keep letting the water flow in. You might even notice the water flow stops briefly when you feel this pressure. If the pressure keeps building up as it did before then stop, as you did before. Hold it as in the last step. Follow the same release pattern as above and the start step 4 again.

If you did feel any resistance, it will pass once you get more than half the water in. Keep filling slowly. It should take three (3) or more minutes before all the water is inside. You should be able to hold it quite easily. Hold it for several minutes (up to 5 mins.). Rub your belly gently smoothing the palms of your hands over the surface in circular motions.

When you sit, assume the upright sitting arched back slightly with knees dropped. Try to let it flow rather then push. When the flow slows to a trickle. Stop! No matter how hard it is to stop, STOP! Wipe, stand up for a minute and then sit again. If you feel a cramp coming on… STOP! Squeeze your anus no matter how hard it is to do that when all you want to do is push past the cramping. Wipe, stand up and the cramp will settle very quickly. Then resume your seat.

Being blunt, the tail end of the evacuation will be muddy, smelly and if you have done a good job, punctuated by any small pocket of gas that was hiding high up in your colon. As the water flows out the gas always rises to the top, so it is the last bit to come out.

Now you are going to be at the 20 min mark.

Step 5 – Clean out

There are two ways to go from here. After Step 4 your colon will be empty but there will be traces of stuff throughout its length. You have about 10 mins left to either focus on making the rectum really clean for your play time, which is still hours away, or you can repeat Step 4 and give your whole colon another flush to reduce the amount of residue in there which means (to be squeaky clean during play later in the evening) you will need to give you rectum a quick flush with a small amount of warm water just before play, or at least when you get to your playmate.

If this is absolutely your last opportunity to get to the toilet or clean yourself in any way, then you have to work your way backwards from the Sigmoid colon down. I can suggest different volumes of water but it is an individual thing. With experience you will get to know your capacity for each section of your colon. Unfortunately, that come with trial and error. To fill your rectum, Sigmoid and at least the lower part of the descending colon is going to take about 1 pint. Maybe 500 ml or you might take up to 800 ml. What is most important is not to start filling up the Transverse colon again. Take the warm water slowly but as soon as you are ready sit and expel. Use the upright positioning and release, don’t push. Sit for a minute to make sure it has drained out.

Now go back to smaller volumes. This is where a large enema bulb syringe comes in handy again. You just want to repeatedly squirt about 250 lm of warm water into your rectum and release it. Sit for a minute to make sure it has drained. Keep doing that till the expelled water comes out clear.

Another method of just flushing your rectum that would be faster depends greatly on circumstances and if you have a long nozzle on your enema bag. You can try filling your bag with warm water, judge when you have allowed about 250 ml of water to flow in and then without removing the nozzle start expelling. Literally flush your rectum by letting the water flow out your ass while it is flowing in through the nozzle. It is just an additional idea. Usually people do this type of thing in the shower or even with a Shower Shot enema attachment.

Finally

Your colon is very good at extracting water but it doesn’t do it “mindlessly”. As good as you colon is at recovering water its job is to keep a good balance. When it fails to keep the balance you get constipated or diarrhea. Fill your colon with water, just once, it will trigger a compensatory response from your colon that will last hours (if not days). As long as there are no pockets of water you left in your colon, your colon will suck itself dry. If you can get you finger in your ass without lube you will find that it is very tacky inside. Another good reason why lube is necessary and a lot of it. Any residue that was left higher up in the colon will be immobilized by the dry, tacky conditions. Even hours after you enema program you will be good for hours of play. Even depth play.

Garden hose enema

Can you use a garden hose and is it possible to over fill yourself?

These are questions that arise again and again, most recently yesterday on FetLife. These question inevitably solicit all kinds of negative response from neigh-sayers that clearly have no personal experience and show a total lack of understand about the human body and biological functions. Can you use a garden hose? – “Yes!” is the simple answer. Is it without risks? – “No!” is the short answer. Neigh-sayers make unqualified statements like;
  • It is not safe to use tap water pressure.
  • Using home water pressure is never a good idea.
  • The colon has no filters to detoxify like the stomach does.
  • Anything toxic you put IN THERE goes immediately to the blood.
  • Hoses are a bad idea – Rough edges, etc, etc, etc.
To all the claims about how bacteria and toxins, bad germs, no filter in the colon, etc, etc.. lets start with this: Man vs. Wild – Fetid water enema. Of course, Bear didn’t come up with this idea all on his lonesome. The first publicized survival story of the Family Robinson using contaminated water as a Murphy Drip is from 1978 – Shipwrecked for 38 days.

It is common medical knowledge that when liquid is introduced into the colon, its membrane allows the water to pass through it into the bloodstream. But here is the point to note: The lining of the colon is a membrane. That is a biological/medical/chemistry form of FILTER.

The wall of the colon is in fact a very effective and complex FILTER. The colon also has mechanisms to override the effects of osmosis which is why it can extract critical trace elements and salts from its contents while blocking toxins. If tap water was so toxic so as to be dangerous to put it up your ass the water supply would be condemned and shut off. If you can drink it you can put it up your ass.

Now to the question of water pressure. Statements like: “It is not safe to use tap water pressure… “ and “… never a good idea” are outrageous overstatements. That is not to say there are no concerns. You can hurt yourself if you act like a fool. However, there are number of aspects about your anus and rectum that makes it very difficult to “over fill” yourself and the water pressure from the average household tap is not going to blast a hole in the sidewall of your rectum.

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Shower enema kit

The Shower shot (pictured here) is a standard piece of kit for many enema enthusiasts, along with any number of home brew, high colonic rigs. Shower shots are sold by the thousands if not 10’s or 100’s of thousands in drug stores, pharmacies and virtually any adult store. They are supplied with the same standard disclaimers and warning as any other “Adult toy”. They do not come with any specific warning about the tap water pressure or anything similar.

I have not found any consumer protection authority that singled out these products in any way. The only case of death by garden hose enema that I do know of involved two young boys who thought it would be fun to keep squirting water up a pig’s ass to see if they could get water to come out of the pigs mouth. They did not manage to get the water to come out the pigs mouth but they did manage to kill the pig. All the other stories I have heard to date remain hearsay with no corroborating authoritative reports. In fact, the only references to any cases of enema causing perforation of the bowel are the result of underlying medical conditions and occurred in Hospital administered enemas.

When compared to the dangers of playing with knives and needles, as others do in the various BDSM, Kink and RACK activities, the edges on a garden hose are pretty innocuous. People stick things up there ass like Matchbox cars, bicycle handles, hair brushes, shampoo bottles (and not just the rounded ones) all the time, with no ill effects. If it hurts, then stop. You wouldn’t stab yourself in the ass with a knife and it is a lot harder and more painful to do it with a bit of plastic or rubberised hose.

I am not saying that enema’s from garden hoses (nor any other type of enema) is risk free. The sage advice is “Listen to your body” and take it slowly till you have an idea of what your body can take.

There are record cases of people who have over filled their colon (as rare as they are) and an enema being forced into the small intestine. In order to achieve this a retention nozzle was required so that the enema simply cannot come out the anus as the pressure built up. Before there is enough pressure to force an emena into the small intestine there is immense cramping and a painful sense of fullness. If all this can be ignored and the enema does enter the small intestine the recorded results are extreme nausea and vomiting. You would then have to ignore all of this for it to become life threatening.

It is simply not easy to overfill with an enema of any sort.

I have published a couple of articles on enemas starting with Issues with Enemas – Good and Bad but for a really great source of information from an active on-line community check out Zity.Biz
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Anal Sex Training by Yourself

Anal Sex Training by Yourself

Why anal sex training by yourself?

There are lots of reasons why people want or should do anal sex training by themselves. Most will ‘suffer’ from modesty, anxiety, fears or some combination or those, that are the result of a lifetime of negative social programming. Others have experienced or anticipate pain and discomfort that they believe would be tolerable, or at least would spoil the sexual encounter. Some want to surprise a partner with the special ‘gift’ of giving their ass and want to be assured that it will be easy and without a lot of negotiations, discussions or experimentation. They want it to be a natural part of their sexual exploits and not be awkward.Continue reading
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Anal training

How do you do anal training? Small plugs to warm up? A finger? Special lube? What do you like to use to anal train?


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Dick Rambone

Anal Training and warm-up

First up let me specifically differentiate between training and warm-up. You can be a total anal slut with years if training, capable of taking Dick Rambone balls deep, or bigger, and still need to warm-up before a play session. The warm-up for big or extreme anal is basically the same as the process of anal training but it just takes a few minutes, maybe half an hour, to prepare for serious anal – once you have trained sufficiently to deal with the anal session to  come.

Anal training starts with Lube

In order to start anal training you have to get something inside you ass, anything. While it is not essential, lube make the job of getting anything in your ass much easier. Lots of things are suitable for lubricating the entrance, hair conditioner, hand cream, baby oil, etc., but soap definitely is not. NO SOAP! For a lot more information on Anal Lube read;- What is a Good Anal Lube?

Anal training with fingers

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Back to the question of Training. Fingers are always a good place to start. Your own fingers are best. It is not just your muscles that need exercising and/or stretching, which is one part of training, your inner anal sphincter (IAS) and the nervous system that controls it, also need training.  The nervous system is a big issue because the nerves that control your IAS are not connected directly to your brain. The nerves are part of the Autonomic nervous system. Your brain does not Feel what is going on in your ass and it cannot directly open the anus.
The autonomic nervous system (ANS), also known as the visceral nervous system and involuntary nervous system, … is a control system that acts largely unconsciously and regulates the heart ratedigestion, … and sexual arousal. This system is the primary mechanism in control of the fight-or-flight response and its role is mediated by two different components. – Wikipedia
So using your own finger(s) gives direct feedback to your conscious mind. Your fingers are also highly sensitive to touch and this reduces your focus on the sensations from your anus. It allows you to poke around and stretch things without hurting yourself. This make the idea of being penetrated far less ominous and doing it starts to reprograms your anus and rectum to be accepting of being poked and stretched. While you have your finger(s) in your ass you want to feel around the wall of you rectum and hook you finger(s) over the top of your anus.

Anal training with butt plugs

Classic Butt Plug

Classic Butt Plug

As a training tool plugs are good in a couple of respects. They familiarize your rectum with having a foreign body in it without it being poo and helping your rectum to differentiate between a need to poo and just being stuffed. They also train your anus to accept the feeling of something foreign moving around in it and propping it open (to varying extents). But a plug you can wear for a long time usually has a longer, slender stem and that doesn’t really hold your anus open to any extent, unless you use a harness to hold in with a shorter and/or fatter stem. A slender stem will “tease” your anus relentlessly but does not help you anus get used to the feeling of really being fully held/stretched open. Because the sensations of a full rectum will trigger the nervous system to open the IAS, people often have trouble holding the things in just using their anus muscles. You quickly realise that the part of the sphincter you can control consciously is not as good at holding things in. This is also why it can be so hard to get past the initial penetration of anal sex. But once the head of the cock is inside the recturm the anus automatically relaxes.

Anal training with dildos and vibrators

Classic Vibe

Classic Chrome Vibe

Plugs do not help you prepared for the thrusting. The in and the out of it. Nor are most any good for training the upper part of the recturm to be comfortable being interfered with. The majority of plugs are between 3 and 5 inches insertable and the average rectum is 6 inches. Even at their longest they are still not intended for thrusting in and out. You want to start with a very smooth dildo or vibrator. Vibrators have the added advantage of helping to loosen tight muscles. After a while you can progress to something that is textured.Certainly the more you wear a plug or play with your ass (without bruising and tearing something) the faster you will train your ass to cope with being fucked. To really train your ass you always want a toy on hand that is just a little bit bigger than you are comfortable with. Play with that for a while (a few minutes) and then give it a rest. Push your boundaries a little every time, but don’t hurt yourself. Then go back to “wearing” something a little more comfortable. You will know when you can move up in size because you will start feeling comfortable with the larger toy(s). For more detailed information I suggest reading Learning to enjoy anal sex and Anal Sex Training by Yourself.
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Effects of Playing with Butt Plugs

Effects of Playing with Butt Plugs

A question from FetLife

This question was sent to me on FetLIfe out of frustration. The weary web  surfer couldn’t find a straight answer to their questions about playing with butt plugs and any post was overrun by neigh sayers and fear mongers. I feel this is information that the broader community would be interested in so I have posted the question and my answer here.

The question about playing with butt plugs

Sachsen, Germany
written 14 days ago:


Dear Max,

I’m writing to you as you are the owner of the group Anal 101. To me it seems like you cover a lot of topics in that group. Maybe you can Please help me with my question …

In Germany we got an online platform called joyclub.de. We talk a lot there, but there is always so much fear involved. If it comes to wearing butt plugs for an extended time, immediately there are those people who shout out loud that you will get incontinent from just playing with plugs.

My question: Do you know of a group here in fetlife or maybe even a topic in the group Anal 101 which covers that fear? A group which discusses the effects of playing with plugs (more often than an average person would do)?

I am hoping to find a group which is not just filled with those who scream first but got no real story to tell. Most of the people just say that it is potentially harmful but don’t give any source for their opinion.

Thank you =) for your time, [annon]

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MaxPrivate
MaxPrivate 50M New South Wales, Australia
written 12 days ago:
Hi [annon],

I am sad to say there is no group on FetLife, or anywhere else, I have found that is not filled with people going on and on about matters they have no knowledge of. More often than not you find people full of their own self-righteousness, pushing their own form of morality, politics or religion (or lack there of) and others who are just completely self absorbed with their own self importance with no regard for how it may effects others.

The other problem is that internet communities are nothing much more then a talk fests (blogs) anyway and there are so many that feel the need to make their presence felt by filling the internet with random, unchecked commentary. Furthermore, the webmasters or hosts of most networking sites do not concern themselves with capturing or maintaining valuable information, let alone filtering out the rubbish. It is not within their purview.

These are the reasons that prompted me to spend the time setting up Anal 101. I quickly realised I had a problems with relying on the Hosts of FetLife to protect the information I was collecting. That resulted in me setting up MaxPrivate.net.

Investigating the effects of playing with butt plugs

Let me see if I can address your underlying question directly. I have found a couple of small studies on the long term consequences of Anal Sex which have all concluded the same;
e.g. “There were no IAS or EAS defects, as well as no fecal incontinence, in our subjects.” – Department of Medicine, University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine, Pennsylvania, USA
The Pittsburgh study is very small, so it is fair to say that it has limited clinical/scientific value, when considered in isolation. But even a study that only included 14 anoreceptive people does tell us that daily anal sex does not result in any guarantied negative consequences.

If there were guaranteed consequences from long term anoreceptive behavior, then it would be impossible for this study to find nil consequences in all 14 subjects. If the chases of anal sex causing problems was as high as 50:50 then the odds of this study drawing a complete blank is less than 1 in 10,000. If there is a 20% chance that regular anal sex had any negative impact on the asshole the chances that the Pittsburgh study would fail to detect this is less than a 1 in 20 or in lay terms, very unlikely still.

So assuming that anal sex can cause any damage to the arsehole  we can conclude that the odds of any negative impact must be less than 1 in 5.

However, these studies do not exist in isolation. Add to this study what we know about the behavior of many thousands of people (which we can call case studies) that show no long term ill effects of constantly wearing butt plugs for extended periods of time. Then add to this our knowledge of human biology and anatomy which gave us kegel exercises. Many of these exercises involve inserting weighted rods and balls into either the vagina or anus to reverse or prevent muscular atrophy and loss of muscle control. i.e. they help the ares not hurt it.

Add to all this, no butt plug manufacturer has ever been sued over the use or design of their products. They have never been force to add anything other than general health warnings to their marketing material or packaging. Nor has there ever been any medical report or health warning in any reputable forum on the negative consequences caused by  wearing butt plugs or other insertables for extended periods.

Conclusions of Playing with butt plugs

Combining all of the knowledge we have;
  • The small studies on anal sex showed absolutely no negative impacts from the practice
  • there have been no substantiated, reputable reports that link the use of butt plugs with anal issues
  • you have thousands of people who have reported no problems with their personal experience
  • in the past three years I have only see one person claim to have personally had a negative consequence and they could not rule out that it was cause by other factors/behavior
  • All the other negative feed back is only hearsay (third person commentary on what they heard or believed that someone else said or did).
I would not go so far as to say you cannot damage your asshole playing with butt plugs, it would just be an extraordinary case. It would involve ignoring a lot of pain that which would be serving as a warning of things going wrong.

So the answer to your question about finding a group is no, but I hope this helps.  However, if you want to canvas people by posting something in Anal 101 I will support that and if you would like to join MaxPrivate.net and invite others to do the same I could probably establish a special interest group or discussion [here] as well.

Play safe.

Max

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Anal Sex and the Irresistible Urge to Poo

Anal Sex and the Irresistible Urge to Poo

How to Stop or cope with the irresistible urge to poo is a common question raised by Newbies to anal sex. The irresistible urge to poo is seen as a problem for the inexperienced who are concerned about making a mess (literally a mess) of things. However, it is also essential for opening up the inner anal sphincter (IAS) and thereby avoid straining the sphincter which can be a source of great pain.

Enemas for Irresistible urge to Poo

This is the primary reason why so many who indulge in anal sex or anal play insist on cleaning their ass with an enema before they begin. Dirty or clean anal is all a question of degrees. At one end of the scale are those who say there is no way of eliminating every last bacterium from the anal canal so it is never clean. At the other end of the scale there are those who say “If you can’t see anything its clean enough and by the way I wear a blindfold.”

A good enema gives people the confidence that nothing is going to get shitty regardless of the sensations they experience. So cleaning your ass out guarantees the irresistible urge to poo is not caused by poo. There is a MaxPrivate article that specifically deals with Eating and Enemas for Clean Anal Sex to provide you with that confidence. But if it is not poo causing the irresistible urge to poo then what is it? Here I deal with why you get the urge, how you can use it to your advantage and how you can overcome it.

What causes the Irresistible urge to Poo?

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So what causes the irresistible urge to poo? There are a particular bunch of nerves in your rectum that are part of the enteric nervous system (ENS).  These neural receptors in the wall of the rectum react to pressure and stretching. These receptors are connected back to the spinal cord but their signals are not passed up to the brain, so your brain is unaware (which is to say, you are not be aware) of any stretching or pressure these nerves detect in the rectal walls. Instead, these rectal receptors trigger motor neurons that relax your inner anal sphincter (IAS) directly. It is the relaxing of the IAS and pressure on the anus that your “Brain” feels. The “urge to poo” is your conscious becoming aware that something is opening the exit.

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Because there is no connection from your brain to the motor neurons that hold your IAS shut you cannot consciously hold the IAS shut. While you cannot control the IAS and your brain never “feels” the nerves in your rectum being simulated (in the normal sense), you can feel the IAS relaxing and other sensations caused by movement in your bowels. That is what the conscious mind equates to the need to defecate.

Normally, when you feel the need to defecate  your conscious mind reacts immediately, tightening the Outer Anal Sphincter (OAS) to hold the back door shut until you get to the toilet. In a normal state, when you don’t need to defecate, the IAS provides up to 85% of the closing force on your anus. For most people, even when they consciously clench their ass (tighten the OAS) as best as they can, it is still no where near as good at keeping your anus shut as the IAS.

Using the Irresistible urge to Poo

To make anal sex/play easy you actually want the IAS to let go. This is why you need to be confident that there is nothing waiting to come out. You need to know it is only that which is being stuffed in that is causing the IAS to relax and your inexperienced brain equating that as an irresistible urge to poo.

To make the IAS relax you need to get something in your rectum to put pressure on the walls and stretch them. That is why it is so important for the inexperienced to have their ass played with before penetration. At the same time you don’t want your conscious mind to be tightening the OAS just as you are getting the IAS to relax. You will go from straining the IAS to straining the OAS. It all feels just like any pain you get from straining muscles.

So making sure you are clean before you start means you can go with the irresistible urge to poo knowing these is no poo there. Let your ass open. When you feel the irresistible urge to poo start consciously pushing out just like you are trying to poo. That opens the OAS and that cock or toy will slide right in. To take bigger things up your ass you actually don’t want to relax at all, you want to push like you are going to do a big shit. Most people will take 8 inches balls deep on the first push by doing that, but it takes metal practice.

When the Irresistible urge to Poo is too much

This is where plugs are particularly useful training tools as they train your consciousness to accept bulbous things in your rectum and let your OAS relax along with the IAS.

With anal experience everyone’s consciousness learns that the loosening of the IAS does not always equate to poo. It doesn’t take very long before you anus starts winking and relaxing in anticipation of penetration and the pleasures to come.