Our modern aversion to Anal Sex

People’s aversion to Anal Sex

Our aversion to anal sex, be it the “ick factor”, shame, embarrassment or “it’s just plain wrong”, is the biggest barrier to people enjoying anal sex. These emotional responses to the thought of anal sex is at the core of people’s unwillingness to even contemplate the act. In a modern, 1st world society, it may be hard to understand the reasons for these emotions. After all, in our modern, first world societies, gay relationships are now celebrated, although not by all. It must be know that the vast majority of gay relationships involve anal sex.

Scientifically or medically speaking, if people are practicing “safe sex”, any difference in infectious transmission is purely academic. There is no physical, medical or legal reason to abstain from anal sex. Even the religious doctrines that still condemn the act are in the minority. So the question is “Why is there such a stigma attached to anal sex?” and “Why are people so put off or worried about indulging in anal sex?”

It is a lifetime of outdated social programming that gives rise to these negative thoughts people have about anal sex. Social programming that is akin to Brainwashing. Social programming based on ideas that are centuries if not millennia old.

Religion’s role in our aversion to anal sex

It started with Christianity. The Greeks and the Romans are famous for their anal sex escapades. Many other cultures, in particular tribal and nomadic cultures, promote anal sex and even homosexuality was a as a method of population control. The Jewish religion, pre-dating Christianity, did not condemn people for practicing anal sex either; 

“Kosher sexual relations are not necessarily limited to those that can lead to pregnancy, either:  anal and oral relations are permitted, if enjoyable to both marital partners, …” – @Kosher Sex

The condemnation of anal sex in the Western world started with the New Testament and Christianity. Now Catholicism has problems with any sexual act that is not specifically for procreation. But over the past 500 years, Christianity, in general, has softened its position on various sex acts. Today, many branches of Christianity accept Gay marriage. This is only one of the paradoxes in religious belief and the followers’ actual behavior. There is just no way you can accept gay marriage/partnerships without understanding a key consequence of gay relationships is anal sex.

Another sexual paradox in religious doctrine and actual behavior is the use of contraception. Studies have shown that 98%, or more, of sexually active Catholic women have used some form of contraception banned by the Vatican. We have to accept that the condemnation of the Catholic church is not enough to dissuade the population from indulging in sexual acts.

It begs the question; “Why is arse fucking so much worse than other acts of sexual pleasure?” In the distant past, arse fucking was strongly associated with the rape of underaged boys. This is almost certainly why gays were persecuted so horrible and in some cases still are. So it is by association with other heinous acts that anal sex came to be viewed as such a very bad thing. In the absence of other associations, how is anal sex any worse than endulging in cunnulingus, felatio and the use of contraceptives? The Vatican attaches a one way ticket to hell for all of these transgressions.

The Law’s role in our aversion to Anal Sex

In the year before King Henry VIII declared himself to be head of the Church of England, he introduced the first legislation under English criminal law against sodomy with the Buggery Act of 1533. The Act defined buggery as an unnatural sexual act against the will of God and man, harking back to the religious definition of soddomy. This included the sexual acts of felatio and cunnulingus amoungst others.

Later buggery was defined by the courts to include only anal penetration and bestiality. This meant that acts of anal sex received the same treatment as acts of beastiality.

“A sodomy law is a law that defines certain sexual acts as crimes. The precise sexual acts meant by the term sodomy are rarely spelled out in the law, but are typically understood by courts to include any sexual act deemed to be “unnatural” or immoral. Sodomy typically includes anal sex, oral sex and bestiality. In practice, sodomy laws have rarely been enforced against heterosexual couples.” – @Wikipidia

While there was a short period when the soddomy laws were repealed, it was re-enacted by Queen Elizabeth I in 1563. Then the Puritans came to power in the mid 1600’s,  under the leadership of Oliver Cromwell and imposed their extremist moral standards.

Buggery remained a capital offence in England and Wales until 1861 and the buggery laws for England and Wales were not repealed until 1967. So we have this very long history of the law telling us that Anal Sex is the most heinous of all sexual acts a human can commit against another human, right up until about 50 years ago. 

Science’s role in our aversion to Anal Sex

Then we made the connection between our own excrement and diseases like cholera and dysentery (back in 1849). Up until the mid 1800’s buggery was punishable by death.

Pile on modern scare campaigns to stop the spread of HIV/AIDS and other STD’s, it is no wonder society has such a latent heat of anal sex.

Even if your partner is not religious, we are programmed from birth by so many different forces against anal sex, you have to treat the ick factor as the result of global brainwashing.

Undoing brainwashing is a slow and methodic process. The objective is to normalise anal sex. Trust is very important. Conversations about anal sex are important but you also want to know what is triggering the ick thoughts/feelings. Very, very important is that over time you prove it is not icky. You need to be vigilant with your own cleanliness. Smell is a big part of the ick factor. Then you need to introduce anal sensations into her orgasms.

Anal Sex Anatomy – An illustrated explanation

An illustrated explanation of Anal Sex Anatomy

This article is under development. When it reaches a point that it has a coherent structure and flow, I will unlock the post. Until then, registered members of MaxPrivate.net are able to watch my ramblings evolve.

Anal Sex Anatomy – Sections of the Large Intestine

Anal Sex Anatomy - Large Intestine Main Features

Large Intestine Features

It is worth know about all the section of the large intestine when it comes to anal sex anatomy. While for most people anal sex is only about getting an average human penis through the anus and into the rectum, for most there are many questions and concerns about cleaning the ass out and how far you have to go to get it “clean”. Then there are other who are into depth play either with toys or a human hand (sic. elbow deep fisting and beyond). So this first illustration names the main features of the large intestine. As you read in more depth on various subject, you might want/need to come back to this illustration to get an understanding of what bit is what.

Anal Sex Anatomy - Colon_Dimensions

Guide to Colon Dimensions



Anal Sex Anatomy - anorectal detail

Anorectal Detail



Anal Sex Anatomy - anorectal features

Anorectal Features



Anal Sex Anatomy - Anus and Rectum detail

Anorectal Features Detailed



Anal Sex Anatomy - Male abdominal X-section

Male abdominal cross-section



Anal Sex Anatomy - Female abdominal X-section

Female abdominal cross-section



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Deep Throat – Dealing with the gag reflex

Dealing with the Gag Reflex

Deep throat training is really the purview of the throatee and so this article is really written as guidance for the receiver (receiver of the phallus not the receiver of the head job). But it is not a bad idea for the throater to know what the throatee is going through, especially when it comes to hygiene so that is where we will start.Continue reading
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Alcohol and Anal Sex

Is it good to mix alcohol and anal sex?

Every time I see the subject of deliberately using alcohol to help a bottom take a cock, especially when the question relates to an anal sex virgin, neigh sayers descend on the forum discussion propounding the dangers of mixing alcohol with anal sex. Their rather outrageous claim is that anyone using alcohol to easy the path to anal penetration is a candidate for the Darwin Awards or, at the very least, a trip to the ER. From a clinical standpoint, nothing could be further from the truth and there is no justification for all the negativity Continue reading
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Safe Dating

Women are being abducted from crowded public places far too regularly. Safe dating involves far more than just staying away from internet hookups. While women are most often in the press, this is good advice for anyone regardless of sexual identity. Safe Dating suggestions:
  • Have a friend drop you at the meeting point. They can wait in the background. Make sure you are only meeting the 1 guy and the guy you believed you were meeting.
  • Waze, Viber and other social networking apps for smart phones will transmit your location on a map to any number of friends with the press of a single button.
  • Apple and most of the Android phones come with a phone finder service for when you loose your phone. That your friends can use to monitor you location without you taking any action at all.
  • Use a 3rd party app on your phone that is specifically design for others to keep track of where you are.
  • Use a 3rd party app that allows anyone you choose to be able to see what ever is in front of the phone’s camera, hear whatever the phone’s mic picks up and locate the phone on a map as long as the phone is turned on. This is the type of software the English New Papers got into trouble for using to spy on celebs. It doesn’t interfere with income or outgoing calls. There is no obvious signs the the phone is spying on every scene and snooping on every sound. Of course this might be sharing more than you want to share with your average friend.
  • Cloud based, auto backup services will store a copy in the cloud of any photo you take within seconds. Take a photo of the person you meet and within seconds there is a photo record of who you have met that they cannot delete or retrieve. The location and time of day will be recorded as well. Take a photo of any place you are taken. Take a photo even if the phone is in your pocket – you location and a time stamp is still backed up.
MOST IMPORTANT! – Make sure the person you meet is aware that you are using any or all of these methods to protect yourself. If they have ulterior motives you will not see them for the dust. These measures are to make sure that the people you meet are honest, not so that the police can track you or the perpetrator down after the fact – although they will do that too.
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30 min Colon Clean Out

Preamble

This article has been published to help a member of FetLife who came to me for assistance with a specific situational problem. The home is not conducive to using enemas (shared accommodation). They get away to their playmate’s place for the weekend but they don’t want to waste a good portion of Friday evening preparing following a three hour drive from work. In fact they don’t want to waste a second. So her ass has to be clean by the time she gets there and that is usually 6 or 7 hours after her lunch break, the only opportunity she has to clean out (bummer). So Friday lunch is the only opportunity which she can sort out for a serious enema and that only gives her about 30 mins, So….

The 30 min Colon Clean Out

Colon_Dimensions

Guide to Colon Dimensions

When time is of the essence, the most important point is not to start with a large volume enema. You need to work up to it. When you are in a hurry the very last thing you want to do is to push any gas and/or solids backwards up your rectum and colon. When you are in a hurry it is extremely tempting to push as much fluid as fast as possible up your ass to get the cleaning process going, but that is guaranteed to push stuff backwards and that will cause stoppages and cramping when you try to expel. It will completely derail your efforts to be fast. Slow and steady wins the race. To help avoid pushing stuff the wrong way, always stand up or be vertical when filling. Don’t use positions or techniques to “help” the enema go in. If it doesn’t go in easily, if you feel cramps or pressure, you know that the fluid is pushing up against either gas or solids. It is not a problem if the fluid goes past solids (as long as they are not carried up the wrong way int he process) but if it is pushed past gas the gas often causes a vapor lock. There will be lots of cramping on the way out and nothing comes back past it in a hurry. Since there is no way to know if the pressure is from a gas pocket or a solid mass you have to take the approach that it is gas. You don’t have the time wait for your colon to shift a gas pocket that is preventing stuff getting past or out.

Step 1 – Empty the rectum

Anus and Rectum detail

Anus and Rectum Details

Start with a very small amount of warm water. You don’t need to use a enema bag for this step. If might be easier/quicker is you use an enema bulb syringe. You must use warm water to help relax the muscles. The warmer the better but don’t scald your ass. 100ml or 1 oz, just to help empty the rectum of any solids or gas quickly. 1 squirt and 1 squat should only take a minute.

Step 2 – Flush the rectum

Next is a quick flush of the rectum. Depending on your anatomy you will need 300-500ml to fill the rectum. Using enema bottles or syringes can be problematic as you are likely to go too fast or too far. Take it slow is the key and stop if you feel any cramping or pressure. You have either reached the top of the rectum or you have encountered more solids or gas. Solids or gas might have descended when you squatted the first time or you may not have emptied the rectum entirely with the first squat. Regardless, stop and squat when you feel the pressure. A fart at the end of the squat is always a good sign. Gas is your enemy and you want it out.

Step 3 – Empty the Sigmoid Colon

Third step is to clean out the sigmoid and even the descending colon. That does not mean filling them with water. If you didn’t get to 500ml (or a pint) on the last step you should be able to get there now, but it is OK if you don’t. The program is much the same as before – don’t push it and make sure the water flow is slow! It should take about 1 min to take 500ml. And if it goes in without any resistance, no more than 1 qt – 1 ltr. Warm water as always. Fill yourself as before, until you feel the pressure or cramping. Don’t keep filling beyond this point even if you don’t seem to have got any further than last time, but this time don’t expel right away.

You have to hold it, without adding any more water, until the cramp or pressure passes. You will feel your insides relax dramatically. Then you should find it easy to hold for a couple of minutes. If the pressure/cramps start again, try to hold it till the feeling passes. Now sit, don’t squat. Drop your knees below your hips, sit up and arch back a little to help straighten out your lower bowel. Try to control the expulsion so that it is more of a release than a push.

When the flow stops or peters out to a dribble, deliberately clench your anus to stop (wipe) and stand up. Stretch, arch your back, twist your torso and use your stomach muscles to push your belly out. If you can, walk around for a minute. Softly “smooth” your hands over your belly in circular motions. Now sit in a more regular toilet position, knees up high, in a proper squatting position if you can and give it a push to see what more you can get out. Give it at least a minute.

This will have taken you up to the 10 min mark or there abouts.

Step 4 – Empty the colon

Now it is time for the 2 quarts – warm water. It should be taken slowly. This is why it is often said that an enema bag should not be hung higher than your shoulder or head height. The water should flow easily without any resistance until it reaches the top of the descending colon. At this point you might feel some amount of pressure or a subtle cramping – Somewhere between 1 pnt/500ml to 1 qrt/1 ltr. The pressure might be quite consistent. As long as it is a small amount and doesn’t keep building up, keep letting the water flow in. You might even notice the water flow stops briefly when you feel this pressure. If the pressure keeps building up as it did before then stop, as you did before. Hold it as in the last step. Follow the same release pattern as above and the start step 4 again.

If you did feel any resistance, it will pass once you get more than half the water in. Keep filling slowly. It should take three (3) or more minutes before all the water is inside. You should be able to hold it quite easily. Hold it for several minutes (up to 5 mins.). Rub your belly gently smoothing the palms of your hands over the surface in circular motions.

When you sit, assume the upright sitting arched back slightly with knees dropped. Try to let it flow rather then push. When the flow slows to a trickle. Stop! No matter how hard it is to stop, STOP! Wipe, stand up for a minute and then sit again. If you feel a cramp coming on… STOP! Squeeze your anus no matter how hard it is to do that when all you want to do is push past the cramping. Wipe, stand up and the cramp will settle very quickly. Then resume your seat.

Being blunt, the tail end of the evacuation will be muddy, smelly and if you have done a good job, punctuated by any small pocket of gas that was hiding high up in your colon. As the water flows out the gas always rises to the top, so it is the last bit to come out.

Now you are going to be at the 20 min mark.

Step 5 – Clean out

There are two ways to go from here. After Step 4 your colon will be empty but there will be traces of stuff throughout its length. You have about 10 mins left to either focus on making the rectum really clean for your play time, which is still hours away, or you can repeat Step 4 and give your whole colon another flush to reduce the amount of residue in there which means (to be squeaky clean during play later in the evening) you will need to give you rectum a quick flush with a small amount of warm water just before play, or at least when you get to your playmate.

If this is absolutely your last opportunity to get to the toilet or clean yourself in any way, then you have to work your way backwards from the Sigmoid colon down. I can suggest different volumes of water but it is an individual thing. With experience you will get to know your capacity for each section of your colon. Unfortunately, that come with trial and error. To fill your rectum, Sigmoid and at least the lower part of the descending colon is going to take about 1 pint. Maybe 500 ml or you might take up to 800 ml. What is most important is not to start filling up the Transverse colon again. Take the warm water slowly but as soon as you are ready sit and expel. Use the upright positioning and release, don’t push. Sit for a minute to make sure it has drained out.

Now go back to smaller volumes. This is where a large enema bulb syringe comes in handy again. You just want to repeatedly squirt about 250 lm of warm water into your rectum and release it. Sit for a minute to make sure it has drained. Keep doing that till the expelled water comes out clear.

Another method of just flushing your rectum that would be faster depends greatly on circumstances and if you have a long nozzle on your enema bag. You can try filling your bag with warm water, judge when you have allowed about 250 ml of water to flow in and then without removing the nozzle start expelling. Literally flush your rectum by letting the water flow out your ass while it is flowing in through the nozzle. It is just an additional idea. Usually people do this type of thing in the shower or even with a Shower Shot enema attachment.

Finally

Your colon is very good at extracting water but it doesn’t do it “mindlessly”. As good as you colon is at recovering water its job is to keep a good balance. When it fails to keep the balance you get constipated or diarrhea. Fill your colon with water, just once, it will trigger a compensatory response from your colon that will last hours (if not days). As long as there are no pockets of water you left in your colon, your colon will suck itself dry. If you can get you finger in your ass without lube you will find that it is very tacky inside. Another good reason why lube is necessary and a lot of it. Any residue that was left higher up in the colon will be immobilized by the dry, tacky conditions. Even hours after you enema program you will be good for hours of play. Even depth play.