Our modern aversion to Anal Sex

People’s aversion to Anal Sex

Our aversion to anal sex, be it the “ick factor”, shame, embarrassment or “it’s just plain wrong”, is the biggest barrier to people enjoying anal sex. These emotional responses to the thought of anal sex is at the core of people’s unwillingness to even contemplate the act. In a modern, 1st world society, it may be hard to understand the reasons for these emotions. After all, in our modern, first world societies, gay relationships are now celebrated, although not by all. It must be know that the vast majority of gay relationships involve anal sex.

Scientifically or medically speaking, if people are practicing “safe sex”, any difference in infectious transmission is purely academic. There is no physical, medical or legal reason to abstain from anal sex. Even the religious doctrines that still condemn the act are in the minority. So the question is “Why is there such a stigma attached to anal sex?” and “Why are people so put off or worried about indulging in anal sex?”

It is a lifetime of outdated social programming that gives rise to these negative thoughts people have about anal sex. Social programming that is akin to Brainwashing. Social programming based on ideas that are centuries if not millennia old.

Religion’s role in our aversion to anal sex

It started with Christianity. The Greeks and the Romans are famous for their anal sex escapades. Many other cultures, in particular tribal and nomadic cultures, promote anal sex and even homosexuality was a as a method of population control. The Jewish religion, pre-dating Christianity, did not condemn people for practicing anal sex either; 

“Kosher sexual relations are not necessarily limited to those that can lead to pregnancy, either:  anal and oral relations are permitted, if enjoyable to both marital partners, …” – @Kosher Sex

The condemnation of anal sex in the Western world started with the New Testament and Christianity. Now Catholicism has problems with any sexual act that is not specifically for procreation. But over the past 500 years, Christianity, in general, has softened its position on various sex acts. Today, many branches of Christianity accept Gay marriage. This is only one of the paradoxes in religious belief and the followers’ actual behavior. There is just no way you can accept gay marriage/partnerships without understanding a key consequence of gay relationships is anal sex.

Another sexual paradox in religious doctrine and actual behavior is the use of contraception. Studies have shown that 98%, or more, of sexually active Catholic women have used some form of contraception banned by the Vatican. We have to accept that the condemnation of the Catholic church is not enough to dissuade the population from indulging in sexual acts.

It begs the question; “Why is arse fucking so much worse than other acts of sexual pleasure?” In the distant past, arse fucking was strongly associated with the rape of underaged boys. This is almost certainly why gays were persecuted so horrible and in some cases still are. So it is by association with other heinous acts that anal sex came to be viewed as such a very bad thing. In the absence of other associations, how is anal sex any worse than endulging in cunnulingus, felatio and the use of contraceptives? The Vatican attaches a one way ticket to hell for all of these transgressions.

The Law’s role in our aversion to Anal Sex

In the year before King Henry VIII declared himself to be head of the Church of England, he introduced the first legislation under English criminal law against sodomy with the Buggery Act of 1533. The Act defined buggery as an unnatural sexual act against the will of God and man, harking back to the religious definition of soddomy. This included the sexual acts of felatio and cunnulingus amoungst others.

Later buggery was defined by the courts to include only anal penetration and bestiality. This meant that acts of anal sex received the same treatment as acts of beastiality.

“A sodomy law is a law that defines certain sexual acts as crimes. The precise sexual acts meant by the term sodomy are rarely spelled out in the law, but are typically understood by courts to include any sexual act deemed to be “unnatural” or immoral. Sodomy typically includes anal sex, oral sex and bestiality. In practice, sodomy laws have rarely been enforced against heterosexual couples.” – @Wikipidia

While there was a short period when the soddomy laws were repealed, it was re-enacted by Queen Elizabeth I in 1563. Then the Puritans came to power in the mid 1600’s,  under the leadership of Oliver Cromwell and imposed their extremist moral standards.

Buggery remained a capital offence in England and Wales until 1861 and the buggery laws for England and Wales were not repealed until 1967. So we have this very long history of the law telling us that Anal Sex is the most heinous of all sexual acts a human can commit against another human, right up until about 50 years ago. 

Science’s role in our aversion to Anal Sex

Then we made the connection between our own excrement and diseases like cholera and dysentery (back in 1849). Up until the mid 1800’s buggery was punishable by death.

Pile on modern scare campaigns to stop the spread of HIV/AIDS and other STD’s, it is no wonder society has such a latent heat of anal sex.

Even if your partner is not religious, we are programmed from birth by so many different forces against anal sex, you have to treat the ick factor as the result of global brainwashing.

Undoing brainwashing is a slow and methodic process. The objective is to normalise anal sex. Trust is very important. Conversations about anal sex are important but you also want to know what is triggering the ick thoughts/feelings. Very, very important is that over time you prove it is not icky. You need to be vigilant with your own cleanliness. Smell is a big part of the ick factor. Then you need to introduce anal sensations into her orgasms.

Anal Sex Anatomy – An illustrated explanation

An illustrated explanation of Anal Sex Anatomy

This article is under development. When it reaches a point that it has a coherent structure and flow, I will unlock the post. Until then, registered members of MaxPrivate.net are able to watch my ramblings evolve.

Anal Sex Anatomy – Sections of the Large Intestine

Anal Sex Anatomy - Large Intestine Main Features

Large Intestine Features

It is worth know about all the section of the large intestine when it comes to anal sex anatomy. While for most people anal sex is only about getting an average human penis through the anus and into the rectum, for most there are many questions and concerns about cleaning the ass out and how far you have to go to get it “clean”. Then there are other who are into depth play either with toys or a human hand (sic. elbow deep fisting and beyond). So this first illustration names the main features of the large intestine. As you read in more depth on various subject, you might want/need to come back to this illustration to get an understanding of what bit is what.

Anal Sex Anatomy - Colon_Dimensions

Guide to Colon Dimensions



Anal Sex Anatomy - anorectal detail

Anorectal Detail



Anal Sex Anatomy - anorectal features

Anorectal Features



Anal Sex Anatomy - Anus and Rectum detail

Anorectal Features Detailed



Anal Sex Anatomy - Male abdominal X-section

Male abdominal cross-section



Anal Sex Anatomy - Female abdominal X-section

Female abdominal cross-section



Hi @tyerion. First up your pubo-rectal sling is not the issue. It is located about 1 inch in at the junction or the anus and rectum and forms a part of the muscle group that constitutes your Inner and Outer anal sphincters ( see:- [puborectalis muscle][http://www.studydroid.com/imageCards/0a/lf/card-11189363-back.jpg]). https://fetlife.com/groups/4362/group_posts/8295687

Which are the “right” soaps for “total colon clean”?

I must say, I have been meaning to add to that article, even make some changes based on further case studies and experiments. But to your question. You want a mild soap. While I am still researching the science behind this, the gentleness of a soap is more affected by the choice of oils used. So claims of pH balanced etc. often are misguided assurances. That is because the vagina has a pH between 3.5 and 4.5, the human skin has a pH between 5 and 7 and none of that matters because the rectum has a pH of 7 to 8. That is to say that any ordinary soap is more likely to have a pH closer to the pH of the rectum/colon that a soap that is “pH balance” for human skin or women’s pussies. ( sic:- UNC Pharmacopedia – Rectal and Vaginal) Down to specifics. One product that is very good is [FemFresh][http://www.femfresh.com.au/FemFresh_Intimate_Wash]. This is an Australian product but other global soap maker will have an equivalent. Ignore the comments about it having a high pH (that is standard for soaps). The important statement is *”The hypoallergenic formula has been dermatologically and gynaecologically tested…”* and I can vouch for the products gentleness when it comes to the anus and rectum. [Castile soaps][http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Castile_soap] are heralded by many enema enthusiast and I have to agree with them. Dr. Bronner (Another Australian product but use all over the world for enemas and therefor I must assume available all over the world) makes a range of [liquid Castile soaps][http://www.drbronner.com.au/liquidsoap.html] with different essential oils added. The scent helps to neutralize the inevitable smell that accompanies the total colon clean out. Stay away from the astringent oils like peppermint, citrus and Eucalyptus (some love it but they like astringent agents up their ass). To keep things soothing, so you can use your anus and rectum of other activities without waiting for the irritation to pass, use lavender, baby mild or Rose. Dr. Bronner’s is great because it is highly concentrated so you only need a few drops (6 – 10) in a litre of water. Finally, baby shampoo. Truely! It is readily available and dirt cheap. Basically any “No More Tears” formulation. If it won’t irritate a baby’s eyes it is not going to irritate the anus or rectum. I got DirtyGardenGirl onto this. She is one person who cannot afford to have chemical irritating her ass just before a performance.
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Alcohol and Anal Sex

Is it good to mix alcohol and anal sex?

Every time I see the subject of deliberately using alcohol to help a bottom take a cock, especially when the question relates to an anal sex virgin, neigh sayers descend on the forum discussion propounding the dangers of mixing alcohol with anal sex. Their rather outrageous claim is that anyone using alcohol to easy the path to anal penetration is a candidate for the Darwin Awards or, at the very least, a trip to the ER. From a clinical standpoint, nothing could be further from the truth and there is no justification for all the negativity Continue reading
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Safe Dating

Women are being abducted from crowded public places far too regularly. Safe dating involves far more than just staying away from internet hookups. While women are most often in the press, this is good advice for anyone regardless of sexual identity. Safe Dating suggestions:
  • Have a friend drop you at the meeting point. They can wait in the background. Make sure you are only meeting the 1 guy and the guy you believed you were meeting.
  • Waze, Viber and other social networking apps for smart phones will transmit your location on a map to any number of friends with the press of a single button.
  • Apple and most of the Android phones come with a phone finder service for when you loose your phone. That your friends can use to monitor you location without you taking any action at all.
  • Use a 3rd party app on your phone that is specifically design for others to keep track of where you are.
  • Use a 3rd party app that allows anyone you choose to be able to see what ever is in front of the phone’s camera, hear whatever the phone’s mic picks up and locate the phone on a map as long as the phone is turned on. This is the type of software the English New Papers got into trouble for using to spy on celebs. It doesn’t interfere with income or outgoing calls. There is no obvious signs the the phone is spying on every scene and snooping on every sound. Of course this might be sharing more than you want to share with your average friend.
  • Cloud based, auto backup services will store a copy in the cloud of any photo you take within seconds. Take a photo of the person you meet and within seconds there is a photo record of who you have met that they cannot delete or retrieve. The location and time of day will be recorded as well. Take a photo of any place you are taken. Take a photo even if the phone is in your pocket – you location and a time stamp is still backed up.
MOST IMPORTANT! – Make sure the person you meet is aware that you are using any or all of these methods to protect yourself. If they have ulterior motives you will not see them for the dust. These measures are to make sure that the people you meet are honest, not so that the police can track you or the perpetrator down after the fact – although they will do that too.