Ujjayi Breath for better sex

I can’t believe it is so hard to find a simple explanation of Ujjayi breath(ing). There is loads of information that talks about the spiritual links and nature and it origins. This article is about the mechanics of Ujjayi breathing for those who are just not into the spiritualism.

Before you start using Ujjayi Breath various situations to manage pain, alleviate discomfort or in your quest for greater sexual satisfaction, it is best to just practice the breathing technique on its own. The Ujjayi breath is typically done in association with asana practice. Asana is any posture useful for restoring and maintaining a persons well-being and improving the body’s flexibility and vitality. Primarily though, its origins are cultivating the ability to remain in seated meditation for extended periods.

Inhalation and exhalation are both done through the nose. An “ocean sound” is created by moving the glottis as air passes in and out. The length and speed of the breath is controlled by the diaphragm, the strengthening of which is, in part, the purpose of ujjayi. The inhalations and exhalations should be equal in duration, and are controlled in a manner that causes no distress to the practitioner. i.e. don’t strain to fill your lungs or empty them.

Ujjayi is a diaphragmatic breath. Keeping your chest still, you first fill the lower belly which pushes your belly out. Then rise to the lower rib cage and finally the upper chest and throat. When you lungs are full, hold your breath for a second or two. Don’t block your nasal passage with your tongue or pallet to hold the breath in, just hold your diaphragm and chest muscles in place. You should be able to allow small amounts of air to flow in and out if you wanted to.

When you breath out, let the air rush out at first (to make the ocean sound) and just let the breath slow to a stop at the end and relax with your lungs empty for a second or two. Again, don’t block the airways. Then start the cycle again..

Practice this in a comfortable sitting position with your eyes closed. No sooner than you think you are comfortable you will want to touch/scratch your nose or rub your eye or scratch your forehead. The idea is to breath through those moments and remain still. Focus on the breath flowing up through the top of your nasal passages and into the back of your throat in a big arc. Then back the other way. Listen to the “Ocean sound”. If you can’t feel it, imagine the air flowing up into your skull and your nasal passages opening.

The idea is to stay focused on your breath or breathing. As you relax you will start to daydream or maybe start pondering some part of the day or something you still need to do. Just slowly bring your thoughts back to your breathing as soon as you realise your mind is straying.

These are the mechanical and mental processes for a good Ujjayi breath. When you can breath through the itchy nose and other distracting sensations you will find that you can breath through all sorts of discomforts and even painful events.

It is a good way to wind down at the end of a day. It is basically a form of meditation in itself. Great way to relax before sex too.

Garden hose enema

Can you use a garden hose and is it possible to over fill yourself?

These are questions that arise again and again, most recently yesterday on FetLife. These question inevitably solicit all kinds of negative response from neigh-sayers that clearly have no personal experience and show a total lack of understand about the human body and biological functions. Can you use a garden hose? – “Yes!” is the simple answer. Is it without risks? – “No!” is the short answer. Neigh-sayers make unqualified statements like;
  • It is not safe to use tap water pressure.
  • Using home water pressure is never a good idea.
  • The colon has no filters to detoxify like the stomach does.
  • Anything toxic you put IN THERE goes immediately to the blood.
  • Hoses are a bad idea – Rough edges, etc, etc, etc.
To all the claims about how bacteria and toxins, bad germs, no filter in the colon, etc, etc.. lets start with this: Man vs. Wild – Fetid water enema. Of course, Bear didn’t come up with this idea all on his lonesome. The first publicized survival story of the Family Robinson using contaminated water as a Murphy Drip is from 1978 – Shipwrecked for 38 days.

It is common medical knowledge that when liquid is introduced into the colon, its membrane allows the water to pass through it into the bloodstream. But here is the point to note: The lining of the colon is a membrane. That is a biological/medical/chemistry form of FILTER.

The wall of the colon is in fact a very effective and complex FILTER. The colon also has mechanisms to override the effects of osmosis which is why it can extract critical trace elements and salts from its contents while blocking toxins. If tap water was so toxic so as to be dangerous to put it up your ass the water supply would be condemned and shut off. If you can drink it you can put it up your ass.

Now to the question of water pressure. Statements like: “It is not safe to use tap water pressure… “ and “… never a good idea” are outrageous overstatements. That is not to say there are no concerns. You can hurt yourself if you act like a fool. However, there are number of aspects about your anus and rectum that makes it very difficult to “over fill” yourself and the water pressure from the average household tap is not going to blast a hole in the sidewall of your rectum.

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Shower enema kit
The Shower shot (pictured here) is a standard piece of kit for many enema enthusiasts, along with any number of home brew, high colonic rigs. Shower shots are sold by the thousands if not 10’s or 100’s of thousands in drug stores, pharmacies and virtually any adult store. They are supplied with the same standard disclaimers and warning as any other “Adult toy”. They do not come with any specific warning about the tap water pressure or anything similar.

I have not found any consumer protection authority that singled out these products in any way. The only case of death by garden hose enema that I do know of involved two young boys who thought it would be fun to keep squirting water up a pig’s ass to see if they could get water to come out of the pigs mouth. They did not manage to get the water to come out the pigs mouth but they did manage to kill the pig. All the other stories I have heard to date remain hearsay with no corroborating authoritative reports. In fact, the only references to any cases of enema causing perforation of the bowel are the result of underlying medical conditions and occurred in Hospital administered enemas.

When compared to the dangers of playing with knives and needles, as others do in the various BDSM, Kink and RACK activities, the edges on a garden hose are pretty innocuous. People stick things up there ass like Matchbox cars, bicycle handles, hair brushes, shampoo bottles (and not just the rounded ones) all the time, with no ill effects. If it hurts, then stop. You wouldn’t stab yourself in the ass with a knife and it is a lot harder and more painful to do it with a bit of plastic or rubberised hose.

I am not saying that enema’s from garden hoses (nor any other type of enema) is risk free. The sage advice is “Listen to your body” and take it slowly till you have an idea of what your body can take.

There are record cases of people who have over filled their colon (as rare as they are) and an enema being forced into the small intestine. In order to achieve this a retention nozzle was required so that the enema simply cannot come out the anus as the pressure built up. Before there is enough pressure to force an emena into the small intestine there is immense cramping and a painful sense of fullness. If all this can be ignored and the enema does enter the small intestine the recorded results are extreme nausea and vomiting. You would then have to ignore all of this for it to become life threatening.

It is simply not easy to overfill with an enema of any sort.

I have published a couple of articles on enemas starting with Issues with Enemas – Good and Bad but for a really great source of information from an active on-line community check out Zity.Biz

Effects of Playing with Butt Plugs

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Effects of Playing with Butt Plugs

A question from FetLife

This question was sent to me on FetLIfe out of frustration. The weary web  surfer couldn’t find a straight answer to their questions about playing with butt plugs and any post was overrun by neigh sayers and fear mongers. I feel this is information that the broader community would be interested in so I have posted the question and my answer here.

The question about playing with butt plugs

Sachsen, Germany
written 14 days ago:


Dear Max,

I’m writing to you as you are the owner of the group Anal 101. To me it seems like you cover a lot of topics in that group. Maybe you can Please help me with my question …

In Germany we got an online platform called joyclub.de. We talk a lot there, but there is always so much fear involved. If it comes to wearing butt plugs for an extended time, immediately there are those people who shout out loud that you will get incontinent from just playing with plugs.

My question: Do you know of a group here in fetlife or maybe even a topic in the group Anal 101 which covers that fear? A group which discusses the effects of playing with plugs (more often than an average person would do)?

I am hoping to find a group which is not just filled with those who scream first but got no real story to tell. Most of the people just say that it is potentially harmful but don’t give any source for their opinion.

Thank you =) for your time, [annon]

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MaxPrivate
MaxPrivate 50M New South Wales, Australia
written 12 days ago:
Hi [annon],

I am sad to say there is no group on FetLife, or anywhere else, I have found that is not filled with people going on and on about matters they have no knowledge of. More often than not you find people full of their own self-righteousness, pushing their own form of morality, politics or religion (or lack there of) and others who are just completely self absorbed with their own self importance with no regard for how it may effects others.

The other problem is that internet communities are nothing much more then a talk fests (blogs) anyway and there are so many that feel the need to make their presence felt by filling the internet with random, unchecked commentary. Furthermore, the webmasters or hosts of most networking sites do not concern themselves with capturing or maintaining valuable information, let alone filtering out the rubbish. It is not within their purview.

These are the reasons that prompted me to spend the time setting up Anal 101. I quickly realised I had a problems with relying on the Hosts of FetLife to protect the information I was collecting. That resulted in me setting up MaxPrivate.net.

Investigating the effects of playing with butt plugs

Let me see if I can address your underlying question directly. I have found a couple of small studies on the long term consequences of Anal Sex which have all concluded the same;
e.g. “There were no IAS or EAS defects, as well as no fecal incontinence, in our subjects.” – Department of Medicine, University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine, Pennsylvania, USA
The Pittsburgh study is very small, so it is fair to say that it has limited clinical/scientific value, when considered in isolation. But even a study that only included 14 anoreceptive people does tell us that daily anal sex does not result in any guarantied negative consequences.

If there were guaranteed consequences from long term anoreceptive behavior, then it would be impossible for this study to find nil consequences in all 14 subjects. If the chases of anal sex causing problems was as high as 50:50 then the odds of this study drawing a complete blank is less than 1 in 10,000. If there is a 20% chance that regular anal sex had any negative impact on the asshole the chances that the Pittsburgh study would fail to detect this is less than a 1 in 20 or in lay terms, very unlikely still.

So assuming that anal sex can cause any damage to the arsehole  we can conclude that the odds of any negative impact must be less than 1 in 5.

However, these studies do not exist in isolation. Add to this study what we know about the behavior of many thousands of people (which we can call case studies) that show no long term ill effects of constantly wearing butt plugs for extended periods of time. Then add to this our knowledge of human biology and anatomy which gave us kegel exercises. Many of these exercises involve inserting weighted rods and balls into either the vagina or anus to reverse or prevent muscular atrophy and loss of muscle control. i.e. they help the ares not hurt it.

Add to all this, no butt plug manufacturer has ever been sued over the use or design of their products. They have never been force to add anything other than general health warnings to their marketing material or packaging. Nor has there ever been any medical report or health warning in any reputable forum on the negative consequences caused by  wearing butt plugs or other insertables for extended periods.

Conclusions of Playing with butt plugs

Combining all of the knowledge we have;
  • The small studies on anal sex showed absolutely no negative impacts from the practice
  • there have been no substantiated, reputable reports that link the use of butt plugs with anal issues
  • you have thousands of people who have reported no problems with their personal experience
  • in the past three years I have only see one person claim to have personally had a negative consequence and they could not rule out that it was cause by other factors/behavior
  • All the other negative feed back is only hearsay (third person commentary on what they heard or believed that someone else said or did).
I would not go so far as to say you cannot damage your asshole playing with butt plugs, it would just be an extraordinary case. It would involve ignoring a lot of pain that which would be serving as a warning of things going wrong.

So the answer to your question about finding a group is no, but I hope this helps.  However, if you want to canvas people by posting something in Anal 101 I will support that and if you would like to join MaxPrivate.net and invite others to do the same I could probably establish a special interest group or discussion [here] as well.

Play safe.

Max

Anal Sex and the Irresistible Urge to Poo

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Anal Sex and the Irresistible Urge to Poo

How to Stop or cope with the irresistible urge to poo is a common question raised by Newbies to anal sex. The irresistible urge to poo is seen as a problem for the inexperienced who are concerned about making a mess (literally a mess) of things. However, it is also essential for opening up the inner anal sphincter (IAS) and thereby avoid straining the sphincter which can be a source of great pain.

Enemas for Irresistible urge to Poo

This is the primary reason why so many who indulge in anal sex or anal play insist on cleaning their ass with an enema before they begin. Dirty or clean anal is all a question of degrees. At one end of the scale are those who say there is no way of eliminating every last bacterium from the anal canal so it is never clean. At the other end of the scale there are those who say “If you can’t see anything its clean enough and by the way I wear a blindfold.”

A good enema gives people the confidence that nothing is going to get shitty regardless of the sensations they experience. So cleaning your ass out guarantees the irresistible urge to poo is not caused by poo. There is a MaxPrivate article that specifically deals with Eating and Enemas for Clean Anal Sex to provide you with that confidence. But if it is not poo causing the irresistible urge to poo then what is it? Here I deal with why you get the urge, how you can use it to your advantage and how you can overcome it.

What causes the Irresistible urge to Poo?

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So what causes the irresistible urge to poo? There are a particular bunch of nerves in your rectum that are part of the enteric nervous system (ENS).  These neural receptors in the wall of the rectum react to pressure and stretching. These receptors are connected back to the spinal cord but their signals are not passed up to the brain, so your brain is unaware (which is to say, you are not be aware) of any stretching or pressure these nerves detect in the rectal walls. Instead, these rectal receptors trigger motor neurons that relax your inner anal sphincter (IAS) directly. It is the relaxing of the IAS and pressure on the anus that your “Brain” feels. The “urge to poo” is your conscious becoming aware that something is opening the exit.

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Because there is no connection from your brain to the motor neurons that hold your IAS shut you cannot consciously hold the IAS shut. While you cannot control the IAS and your brain never “feels” the nerves in your rectum being simulated (in the normal sense), you can feel the IAS relaxing and other sensations caused by movement in your bowels. That is what the conscious mind equates to the need to defecate.

Normally, when you feel the need to defecate  your conscious mind reacts immediately, tightening the Outer Anal Sphincter (OAS) to hold the back door shut until you get to the toilet. In a normal state, when you don’t need to defecate, the IAS provides up to 85% of the closing force on your anus. For most people, even when they consciously clench their ass (tighten the OAS) as best as they can, it is still no where near as good at keeping your anus shut as the IAS.

Using the Irresistible urge to Poo

To make anal sex/play easy you actually want the IAS to let go. This is why you need to be confident that there is nothing waiting to come out. You need to know it is only that which is being stuffed in that is causing the IAS to relax and your inexperienced brain equating that as an irresistible urge to poo.

To make the IAS relax you need to get something in your rectum to put pressure on the walls and stretch them. That is why it is so important for the inexperienced to have their ass played with before penetration. At the same time you don’t want your conscious mind to be tightening the OAS just as you are getting the IAS to relax. You will go from straining the IAS to straining the OAS. It all feels just like any pain you get from straining muscles.

So making sure you are clean before you start means you can go with the irresistible urge to poo knowing these is no poo there. Let your ass open. When you feel the irresistible urge to poo start consciously pushing out just like you are trying to poo. That opens the OAS and that cock or toy will slide right in. To take bigger things up your ass you actually don’t want to relax at all, you want to push like you are going to do a big shit. Most people will take 8 inches balls deep on the first push by doing that, but it takes metal practice.

When the Irresistible urge to Poo is too much

This is where plugs are particularly useful training tools as they train your consciousness to accept bulbous things in your rectum and let your OAS relax along with the IAS.

With anal experience everyone’s consciousness learns that the loosening of the IAS does not always equate to poo. It doesn’t take very long before you anus starts winking and relaxing in anticipation of penetration and the pleasures to come.

Enema Issues – The Good and The Bad

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Enema issues

There are a number of debates that keeps resurfacing about the benefits of and/or damage from regular use (or any use) of enemas. The claims range from the enema being a detoxifying cure all to the enema causing the destruction of the digestive and immune systems. Then there are the claims of an irreversible dependency that comes from repeated use.

There are 9 enema issues that this article addresses directly. They are: Continue reading “Enema Issues – The Good and The Bad”

Eating and Enemas for Clean Anal Sex

Clean Anal Sex

Most people want to know what needs to be done to keep anal sex clean. While some are not concerned about it becoming dirty, most need to be confident it won’t get brown and smelly. Without that confidence they cannot relax mentally. It doesn’t just spoil any chances of enjoying the activity, anxiety is a sure fire path to making anal sex painful for the receiver. Continue reading “Eating and Enemas for Clean Anal Sex”