Dealing with the Gag ReflexDeep throat training is really the purview of the throatee and so this article is really written as guidance for the receiver (receiver of the phallus not the receiver of the head job). But it is not a bad idea for the throater to know what the throatee is going through, especially when it comes to hygiene so that is where we will start.
Triggers for the Gag ReflexThe Gag reflex is notably the focus of most discussions around learning the art of Deep Throat. Most people talk about it as some sort of singular function of the human body. An isolated “Thing”. But it is not. The Gag reflex has many facets, multiple trigger points and can be influenced by your state of mind, your breath, your level of anxiety et al.
While the Gag reflex is a physical response to physical stimuli, there are other psychological issues that some have to overcome. While there are many who love it, some people have a real problem with the Dominance/Submissive mature of giving a Blow Job and especially Deep Throating someone, or may be affected by latent social stigma attached to the act. The thought of swallowing the male ejaculate (regardless of whether you plan to take it that far), or the taste and/or the smell of it are yet more issues for many. Some think it is icky put the male penis anywhere near the mouth because pee comes out of it. This concern is aggravated by those men who lack the sensitivity to be diligent with their cleanliness. Don’t forget that a bad smell is enough to make anyone gag without even before considering anything entering their mouth.
For girls the urinary sphincter muscle is right at the opening of the pee hole. Once it is shut the flow of pee stops and no drips follow that. Men have exactly the same sphincter in exactly the same place and that puts it at the wrong end of the penis. It is not at the outside opening of the pee hole, that would be the tip of the penis. It is not even at the base of the penis, it is back, underneath, behind the balls (See illustration – right). Men would do well to make a special note of the fact that their dick has a tendency to drip after they finish urinating. Most girls have the decency to wipe when they are finished and yet guys are the ones who drip – on the floor (much to the annoyance of girls) and in their pants, etc, etc.
So before we talk about deep throat training for the receiver, lets make sure the giver is clean. It is hard enough getting past the mechanics of the gag reflex without have to deal with the smell/taste of stale urine.
The Gag ReflexThe gag reflex is part of the autonomic nervous system. This part of the human nervous system is not connect to your consciousness. You cannot consciously control it. However, the autonomic nervous system can be retrained or reprogrammed. Forcing things down your throat repeatedly will get you there and an amazing number of people do just that. They allow their partners to just fuck their face, putting up with any unpleasantness and eventually the autonomic nervous system adjusts. But for most people a forced face fucking is a real put off and spoils any chance of them even attempting anything like it again. With a little perseverance you can overcome your gag reflex with absolutely no pain or discomfort at all.
Retraining the autonomic nervous system is not measured in days or weeks, it is measured in minutes – 3 minutes will do it. This process is for self training. If you are the one wanting to stuff your partner throat, you must understand that it is only the one who will be taking the throat stuffing that will be able to judge how far to go at any moment. This advice is for the stuffee not the stuffer. But I would encourage a stuffer to read and understand what their partner must go through to deal with a throat stuffing.
The process is to touch the neural receptors that trigger the gag reflex but to do it gently enough so you start to feel the urge but not trigger it.
To begin with, you want to use something very smooth and quite thin. A good choice is the handle of a plastic tooth brush. You will find the neural receptors for the gag reflex at the back of the tongue and at the back of the throat. You start with the back of the tongue. Just start tickling the back of the tongue. As the urge to gag becomes overwhelming, back off just enough to stop the gag. The idea is to keep interfering with the neural receptors for 3 minutes almost continually. I guaranty that at the end of 3 minutes you will be able to stand a lot more than when you started.
You can go for as long as you feel comfortable. If you push yourself, tire or your throat starts to get sore, you should stop. This process can be done several times a day with a couple of hours rest between sessions. It is far better to do many small sessions than just pushing things once or a couple of times a day.
When you are comfortable touching any part of your tongue and the back of your throat with the smooth part, switch to the bristles. Start slowly again and build up the nervous systems acceptance of a rough or scratchy touch.
The final step is to acclimate the throat and tongue to the sense of pressure and fullness. I would suggest a dildo about the same size as a male cock. Start slowly from the beginning again. Along with the nervous system the muscles in the throat and neck need to make adjustments as well. If necessary the throat will eventually stretch to take a cock that is larger than it’s original state.
There is no telling just how many training sessions it will take. The time taken is an individual thing. But if she keeps practicing her body will ultimately adjust to having her esophagus stretched and straightened and even having her trachea push forward in her neck to accommodate a cock that is not bending to the natural curve of the throat. You can see this on videos of those with the talent. You can see in this tweet the girl looks like she has no jaw line until she removes the guy’s cock.
You can suppress the gag reflex quite quickly, but throat stuffing will take time and patience.